Once you have learned to massage feet there are so many other areas of the body where massage can aid intimacy. Such close touching of each other can be very arousing and for a man who is locked in a chastity device being allowed to massage his partner is pleasure and torment at the same time. Of course if he pleases her it may be removed!
The legs
Legs are often sore and the muscles are stiff. Massage of the calves and lower thighs, starting from the ankles and working up the legs pushes swelling away from the ankles, and clears lymph. Kneading and stretching the muscles allows them to become relaxed and aches to fall away.
The shoulders
Shoulder muscles are kept tight with typing and using keyboards. The muscles tighten up when we are tense so the shoulders often ache at the end of a long day. The shoulder blades become stuck and stiff, and sudden movements of the shoulders or back lead to muscle tears and pain. Shoulder massage is more complex than feet and ankles, but there are many sources of information, and a good massage will be both intimate and effective.
Back and buttocks
You can massage the back, stretching and relaxing the muscles of the lower back and the buttocks, and as you get closer to the intimate areas any touch feels more intimate.
You need to be careful with what you do as you do not want to cause harm, so for back massage attending a course or being taught by a professional may be the best option.
The whole body
The feel of your lover’s skin as you anoint it with oil is so arousing, and the whole body massage allows you to touch and massage the back and shoulders, feet ankles and thighs and also the abdominal wall as well. Every touch will be felt by the other. Every attempt to push away tension and stress will make the occasion more intimate.
Intimate areas
Some of the areas of the body are full of nerve endings, and massage will give a massive sensory load to the person being massaged. Massage of the breasts, the buttocks, and the inner thighs, becomes ever more intimate, and if combined with kissing of the areas so treated allows pleasure to both partners and may if desired lead on to more sexual activity.
Obviously one important factor here is that there must be no touching or massage beyond what is agreed, and the man massaging his partner needs to remain fully mindful of her in every way as he does it.
For the man who is in male chastity, and cannot produce an erection or ejaculate without his partner unlocking him, any action that is intimate becomes arousing, but she still holds the advantage and the key. Massage can be a useful way to allow both partners pleasure in this situation, whilst keeping the man locked up dependent on his partner’s decision based on how well he performs the massage.
Important general messages of massage
Massage is a powerful way for one partner to serve the other, and to give pleasure to both, but it will only work if done properly, with adequate preparation and training.
Here as in so many areas of intimacy, both partners need to be mindful of the other, in what they see, hear, and feel. Most often the woman receives massage from the man, and teaches him how he can give her pleasure in the massage and how it can be effective. The man needs to be receptive to learn. He really does not know what he is doing, but he knows he can be trained to give pleasure in this way and that this will give him pleasure in return.
This is an area in which outside assistance can be of help but it is the couple working on it together who will grow the intimacy in their lives, and the man and woman restarting intimacy in their relationship can use the learning of massage as a model for the reintroduction to other areas of intimacy.
Ms. Sierra Parker 