122 Restart Intimacy – You Can Have a Better Life

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Wishing everyone a Happy, loving & Intimate Valentines Day ūüĒź

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My aim in writing my book Restart Intimacy was to introduce the whole idea and practice of restarting intimacy to a wider audience so that more people can discover for themselves how to make a relationship better than it is already.

I know the approach works, for I have seen it work with individuals and couples, but I also know that it does not work for everyone. No single approach works for everybody so this is not surprising. But for those who wish to take on the adventure and will be prepared to put in the effort and to work through the difficult times the future can be bright and intimate.

My advice to anyone who has clicked onto these blog posts is to get the book so you can see the whole picture of how to restart intimacy in your life. Talk about it with your partner, share together…

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6 Preconceptions: I Do Not Know How to Start

Everyone can change. We have all had the experience of intimate relationships in our lives, in childhood, with friends, and in more intimate relationships. Even if there has been no adult intimate relationship with sex it is still possible to prepare oneself so that it can develop.

It all requires a desire to change. If you want to change and develop you can learn the skills needed to please a partner. It needs you to focus on them and THEIR needs.

Once you understand how to listen and be mindful of another you can discover their needs, desires and aspirations and find out how to deliver them.

But first you need to examine yourself and what has happened before in your life. You need to be honest with yourself.

I have produced a test (7 Take the Intimacy Test) you can use to help do this. Do you dare take the test and look at the things you have done right or wrong in relationships in the past? Whoever you are, everything will not have gone right all the time and some of the problems came from you.

Once you have looked the test results, I can show you what factors help and hinder in intimacy and show you how to make the changes that will get you to your goal.

5 Preconceptions: Women Just Want to Talk

This is often a complaint by men who want more sex from their partners. But it is not true. Women want sex to give them pleasure and this takes time, more than that provided by many men. They also desire intimacy as much as sex and feel let down when all the man appears to want is a quick orgasm.

For a woman intimacy encompasses so much more than sex, and she wants a partner who can fulfil all her needs so they can develop real depth in their relationship and both get the utmost pleasure from their life together. She is looking for a partner who can meet her needs, or wants to work with a partner that she may already have to change things and make life better for both of them.

What all women whom are not in a relationship need is a supply of men who understand their needs as potential partners, and their needs for intimacy in all its forms and are prepared to deliver. If they are already in a relationship they need help to understand and express their needs and to develop in their partner a real understanding for their needs and skills to deliver what is going to make both of them happy.

A woman learns to be open about her needs and desires and both men and women need to learn to communicate together to look at specific issues and how to improve them. On the way they study the nature of intimacy, and a man learns to listen to their partner to find her needs so they can fulfill them.

Men learn skills which may improve their behavior around the home, and lead to them being able to serve their partner as she needs, and get pleasure from it as they do so. This service of the man to his partner in learning her needs and doing what she wants is liberating to both partners and leads to a ‚Äúvirtuous spiral‚ÄĚ of increasing intimacy in small things, more pleasure and communication, and to even more of the same.

Get restarted now!

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4 Preconceptions: Men Just Want Sex

For men, issues of being intimate are often a massive problem, as they are programmed from their earlier experiences and the media to equate intimacy with penetrative genital sex and nothing else, so they are unable to fulfill the needs of their partner who remains dissatisfied.

For many men their brains are conditioned by their exposure to the images of both soft and hard porn, and the entertainment industry. They are able to masturbate and to reach orgasm with the use of these images and thinking of them in their imagination, and this limits their responses in the real world of dealing with real people.

For many single men, not in a relationship their previous experience of intimacy has been so limited they do not know where to begin, and they are hampered by what experience they already have. Even for those in a relationship their grasp of the essentials of intimacy may be so limited, and their skills in listening, communicating, and serving the needs of a woman may limit the relationship and prevent the enjoyment both should have.

For men the patterns of thought and arousal which have been developed need to be broken and new ones developed to lead them into both conscious and unconscious different behaviors.

But this is not true for all; even if for many men it is a problem. It is possible to change and to begin to understand that intimacy is more than just sex. If a man wants to develop he can do it.

He may struggle at first but he can develop a deep and intimate relationship where what matters is his partner’s needs, desires and aspirations and he is mindful and focused on her. She will respond to this and be better able to satisfy him and both will gain.

Get restarted now!

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Kindle:¬†RESTART INTIMACY A Unique Approach to Male Chastity: Let’s Get Started!! (Intimacy and Male Chastity)

http://www.amazon.com/RESTART-INTIMACY-Approach-Chastity-Intimacy-ebook/dp/B00GUDSXXC/

Paperback:¬†RESTART INTIMACY A Unique Approach to Male Chastity: Let’s Get Started!! (Intimacy and Male Chastity)

http://www.amazon.com/RESTART-INTIMACY-Unique-Approach-Chastity/dp/1493696319/

 

wb1Re-Introduction to Intimacy: A Workbook for Couples: Part 1. Build the foundations making male chastity work for you

Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Couples-workbook-ebook/dp/B00H133E8E/

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-foundations-chastity/dp/1494207109/

wb2Re-Introduction to Intimacy:a Workbook for couples: Part 2: Learn the skills; Become Expert and Fulfilled

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-couples-Fulfilled/dp/1494217155/

swb1Re-Introduction to Intimacy: a Workbook for the Single Man: Part 1: Build the Foundations; making male chastity work for you

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Foundations-chastity/dp/1494217562/

Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Single-single-ebook/dp/B00H0VGHYK/

swb2Re-Introduction to Intimacy: a Workbook for the Single Man: Part 2. Learn the skills : Become Expert and ready for Intimacy

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Single-skills/dp/1494217759/

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3 An Example of Intimacy and Food

Eating together can be intimate and give pleasure even if it is not a ‚Äúspecial‚ÄĚ meal. If you are preparing for a meal together making sure you have the food your partner likes allows you to relax together and have a good time.

If the man takes trouble to offer help, to set the table, to clear up, and to do the washing up and take out the trash, the woman who has worked hard to produce a meal will not feel it has all been her work and she has been left to do everything. She will be less likely to be grumpy about all the effort she has taken.

She will be so pleased to see the man taking his part and seeing the effort he has made that this may allow them both to enjoy the meal more, and being together and reduce the risk of bickering and stress.

A nice meal, eaten together with a partner or friend draws you both together and leads on. It was like that when you first met your partner. These were ‚Äúromantic‚ÄĚ meals. But you can do the same with any meal. Get take-out your partner or friend likes so she does not need to cook but make sure you get what she likes not just what you like otherwise there may be trouble.

If you live on your own you can learn how to cook and set the table and keep everywhere clean and tidy so if you do invite in a potential friend of partner they will not be repelled by what they see and how you go about things.

If as a couple you are alone for your meal you can feed each other tidbits on a spoon or with a fork or on a finger. You can go further if you both want to. But always thank your partner for the food they give you.

Take this approach and mealtimes become more intimate and pleasurable.

Get restarted now!

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Kindle:¬†RESTART INTIMACY A Unique Approach to Male Chastity: Let’s Get Started!! (Intimacy and Male Chastity)

http://www.amazon.com/RESTART-INTIMACY-Approach-Chastity-Intimacy-ebook/dp/B00GUDSXXC/

Paperback:¬†RESTART INTIMACY A Unique Approach to Male Chastity: Let’s Get Started!! (Intimacy and Male Chastity)

http://www.amazon.com/RESTART-INTIMACY-Unique-Approach-Chastity/dp/1493696319/

 

wb1Re-Introduction to Intimacy: A Workbook for Couples: Part 1. Build the foundations making male chastity work for you

Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Couples-workbook-ebook/dp/B00H133E8E/

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-foundations-chastity/dp/1494207109/

wb2Re-Introduction to Intimacy:a Workbook for couples: Part 2: Learn the skills; Become Expert and Fulfilled

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-couples-Fulfilled/dp/1494217155/

swb1Re-Introduction to Intimacy: a Workbook for the Single Man: Part 1: Build the Foundations; making male chastity work for you

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Foundations-chastity/dp/1494217562/

Kindle: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Single-single-ebook/dp/B00H0VGHYK/

swb2Re-Introduction to Intimacy: a Workbook for the Single Man: Part 2. Learn the skills : Become Expert and ready for Intimacy

Paperback: http://www.amazon.com/Re-Introduction-Intimacy-Workbook-Single-skills/dp/1494217759/

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