A woman whose partner has embraced male chastity has been given a present of great price. Her partner trusts her with his most precious possessions and that she will use the power he has voluntarily given her wisely.
She will start by being unsure of what is going on, and why her partner has done this. She may be excited by the idea that he has done this for her, and at his new focus on her pleasure. She may realize that this is a common male fantasy and now he is living it for real.
She has been given such awesome power over her man that she will want to use it, and she will be able to do this to increase her pleasure. Previously she may have been bothered that her partner has not been as good at pleasing her or being intimate as she would like. She may have spent more time and effort trying to please him than he spends pleasing her. She may feel that she does not receive oral sex as often as she would like and that he does not give her the time and effort that she would prefer before moving on to any penetrative act.
She might like to have him massage to loosen tight muscles or relieve stress. He may not be performing his share of the household chores, so with both partners working she has the major part of the work to do and he sits watching the television or going out with his friends.
These are all areas in which the couple can re-negotiate their activity in the context of “male chastity”. She now holds the key to his release and the key to his pleasure. As he is no longer able to masturbate, or to touch and play with himself, he has found that he is now more limited in getting his pleasures and she will find that he becomes more attentive to her.
It is just like being back in the courting period all over again, with an attentive suitor who wants to please so much and will do so in every way that he can. This means that the woman gets more attention, more effort from her man, and more pleasure. What the man gets is what she wants him to get.
If she decides that she wants to keep him aroused she can touch him, tease him and keep offering release but when, soon …..?
He will love this, and when she does unlock him and permit him to penetrate her and have an erection it will be explosive and possibly better than he has ever had before.
But there is no reason why he cannot be required to pleasure her to orgasm first, or even multiple times before he gets his release.
Taking control of the key in male chastity loads a large burden of responsibility on the woman. Now she is responsible for her man in ways never seen before, and nearly all women will find this exciting, worrying, and ultimately exciting.
When he goes out in the morning to work in his chastity device, all hidden under his clothing he will know he is locked away, and every time he thinks of sex, or of his partner the tube, cage, or belt device will prevent an erection. He will know he is wearing it. But so will his partner, who will know he is being kept on the edge of arousal every time he feels the device in place, and will be so ready to be good to her when he returns.
Many men have fantasies, of which being in male chastity is only one, and he may have wanted to play these out in your relationship. This can involve dressing up, role play and all sorts of things. If the woman likes that, or particularly enjoys one of these, then she can apply that to what is done when and before her man is released for the male chastity. But if she does not want to play that way, now she has control with the key she will decide what games they play. This is increasingly all about what she wants and desires.
All of this can be very arousing for her, and mean that she is aroused, receives the attention of her partner, and has control of so much more than ever before, which can be very liberating. Because she cares for him, and has agreed to this process she will feel that intimacy has been enhanced, and as she cares she will ensure that he is cared for in turn.
This will mean that although she will decide when and how he is to be released, she will not drive him to distraction or make him suffer too much, although the “suffering” that comes from his lack of freedom may be the key to long term change and she does not want to give in to all his begging for release.
Indeed some couples agree that any begging will lead to longer for the man in the device to prevent this occurring. But even then she will be watching him closely, and noticing signs of real distress, and will provide the support he will need to help him through this. That may not mean he is released of course, but a cuddle, a massage, or a period of closeness or teasing may be equally effective to show him that she cares.
This is only a short account of the effects of male chastity on a woman. If you want to learn more it is all in “Restart Intimacy” and there are a series of stages, exercises and guides on how to do it in the course “Reintroduction to Intimacy”.
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Ms. Sierra Parker 