If you are really serious about changing your life to allow you to restart intimacy using the approach I recommend, you will need to use the structures and exercises given in the Restart Intimacy book and the Reintroduction to Intimacy course.
These are there to help you develop the foundations on which to build your new life together. In the second half of the book and in the second volume of the course, there are examples of how you can build intimacy at the core of your life with your partner.
In the next part of this course I have provided notes and hints on some practical ways in which both partners in a relationship can prepare themselves for each other, ways through which they can give pleasure to each other, and ways in which they can gain pleasure together.
These are accompanied by some suggestions for ways in which these can be made possible, and exercises which you can use to help in discussions of intimate activities which otherwise you might find some problems in expressing.
All of these assume that you may already be using the approach of male chastity, which frees the imagination of both to consider new ways to please the other, and where the man in his chastity needs pleasure and benefits even if he remains locked up and cannot reach an orgasm as before.
All of them assume that you are aware of all that I have written on the subject of mindfulness in this section and build upon its use to draw the two together.
Some require more time, training, and skill, but all have proved possible and given pleasure to my clients and friends.
The overall aim of any relationship is to progress to deeper knowledge at all levels for the one of their partner, and deeper and more fulfilling pleasure and intimacy at all levels.
This is also the aim of these posts and of my life as a coach for individuals and couples.
There will be forthcoming posts which will look at intimacy in all areas of life and how to make everything an opportunity for intimacy .
“It is all so much fun” as one of my clients said recently, describing how he and his partner had made changes to the way they did things, from simple changes in the division of tasks in the home, and a man who was now so engaged with the needs of his partner and in spoiling her, giving her flowers, foot massage and doing things for her, and a woman who was basking in his attention and care. Now sex was better than it had ever been in over 30 years of marriage.
“Why did we not do this sort of thing before? Only because never knew it could be done, or thought it could be so good in so many, many ways.”
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Re-Introduction to Intimacy: A Workbook for Couples (Re-Introduction to Intimacy A workbook for couples)
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