When restarting intimacy things are somewhat different to what happens in many relationships. Here the man has embraced the principle of male chastity in order to start to learn new and improved ones. As a result he is now bound only to be allowed to be released and to ejaculate when his partner wishes it. He is no longer able to play with himself, and he may not be able to touch his penis as it is locked away in a chastity device. He becomes ever more dependent upon his partner for his own pleasure, and learns to please her to gain pleasure himself.
There are so many ways in which he can give pleasure to his partner and to build intimacy and a tactile and intimate life. These sections have shown how this can be developed, and lead to such pleasure for both that he is more likely to be released as a result. As a result of the general arousal that occurs as a result of male chastity he will be more eager to try all the ways in which he can both give and gain pleasure.
One area of touch can become very important indeed. Whilst he cannot touch himself, there is no reason that his partner cannot touch him. She can tease him, by how she dresses, how she speaks, and how she becomes more tactile with him, and this will all excite him. Of course he cannot produce an erection unless the person who carries the key around her lovely neck makes use of it.
She can touch him anywhere, cuddle up to him and whisper what she might like to do with him, touch his device and squeeze his ball sack. Wherever she touches she will feel it, and he does not know whether her promises of “possibly tonight, possibly not” may come true. This will allow her to bring him to the brink again and again before she unlocks him, and he never knows what is going to happen next.
It may be “tease and deny him” or “tease and release him” and it all increases his arousal and his desire to give pleasure to his partner who controls this part of him.
He may not have realized how much power and opportunity he is giving his partner when he agreed to this process but it certainly means that he will change behaviors and learn new ones to improve his chances of release. He loses the worry of whether he will be able to perform adequately for his partner, because he discovers that on the occasions he is released the pleasure and the ability to give pleasure is so intense, more than he has ever experienced before.
Exercise: Teasing
The man should go to bed and lie down to await his partner. If they both wish he can wear earplugs and a blindfold to remove outside sight or sound interference.
The woman should then enter the room and lie down next to him. He should lie still and not move and this time she should initiate all the touching.
She should touch him wherever she wants, moving from the most intimate areas to those where there are fewer nerve endings, and he should have no idea of what is coming next. She may get up and leave him there on his own for a while on his own. She should stimulate him in every way with touch until he is begging for release, and she should not give it, but stop and offer it possibly in the morning.
The next morning she should remove the chastity device and continue where she left off, proceeding to full genital sex if she feels it is right, or put him back in the chastity again and offer “perhaps tonight”. She should not keep him too long in this teased state but should give release, but on her terms and time of her choosing. Afterwards they should discuss all that happened and see how it could be made even better next time.
Commentary
He will be very surprised to discover that this prolonged teasing allows spectacular sex to follow, and he will be amazed at how exciting it has all been. She will have had a great time, and as many orgasms as she wants whilst teasing him and keeping him on the boil before allowing release and ejaculation.
Ms. Sierra Parker 